A former FBI agent on the law of attraction-Do you feel like that you always fail to impress your partner or buddies? Do you feel like you are not making enough impact on the people around you? Well, you are not alone. A lot of people strive to make themselves the center of attraction. And it’s not because your conversations lack content. To be the cynosure of all eyes, one must know and improve upon their physical and subliminal gestures.
Who knows better the law of attraction than a detective? Dr. Jack Schafer is an ex-FBI agent and his book, ‘The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Influencing, Attracting and Winning People Over’, has gained tremendous popularity. Specialized in behavior analysis, Dr. Schafer has immense knowledge and experience on the body language. He has emphasized the use of gestures in winning the influence you always wish for.
Check out these ten tips from Dr. Schafer’s book and know how you can charm people with your demeanor.
1. Tilt and nod your head.
When you keep your head straight, it gives the people a feeling that you are not welcoming them. But when you tilt your head sideways, it automatically makes it look like you are leaning towards them and are embracing them. It quickly builds trust, which makes you very attractive.
Another tip to learn from Dr. Schafer’s book is that it is desirable to nod your head once in a while. Showing affirmation to the other person makes them feel that you are an open and welcoming person.
2. Use your Eyes and Brows to express emotions
Your stare and the shape of your eyebrows can reveal a lot about your mood and interest. You must be aware of what emotions you emanate from your eyes. A cold and sharp stare can make you seem like an unwelcoming person. On the other hand, a warm look in your eyes will attract any person. Try to raise your brows once in a while when talking to people. This way they sense a feeling of being listened to.
Let yourself express through your eyebrows to show surprise or agreeableness. But, don’t overdo it.
3. Talk softly
Talking softly and soberly is liked by people. To make your self more attractive, do not speak loudly. It gives a wrong sense of your personality. Also, while conversing, never lean backwards as it would suggest you are arrogant and unfriendly.
When you talk to a person in a whispering tone, both of you lean, thus, bring you closer to each other.
Smiling is perhaps the most attractive action if you want to win the attention of people. When you smile, it sends positive and encouraging vibes. Indeed, a smile can win a thousand hearts. Maintaining a smiling face is a sign of health and warmth.
People can quickly differentiate between an honest and an insincere smile. So make sure, you are smiling with all your heart. However, do not get carried away by laughing out loud as it can be impolite.
5. Make others feel that they are important
6. Let People Compliment Themselves
Show appreciation when others speak. Encourage them and let them feel that you value their efforts.
7. Watch your words and understand the point of embarrassment.
Sometimes, even the most innocuous words can embarrass people. Look for the clues in their faces. If their smile seems fake and they use their hand to cover their mouth or face, it is a clear sign that you have embarrassed them. At this point, you should be able to fix the situation quickly. Look directly into their eyes and make them feel that you deeply regret it.
8. Pay attention to people’s gestures.
9. Be open about yourself
In real life, no one is a superhero. We do silly mistakes and accidents happen. If you idealize too much about yourself, people think of you as a fake personality. Boasting and exaggerating your achievements will make you feel like an arrogant person.
Let people know that you have committed mistakes as well. But, also tell them how you fixed them. This way, they will feel more connected to you. They can be confident enough to talk to you without feeling that you will judge them. “It’s okay, we are all human,” explains Dr. Schafer
10. Be a little romantic